I feel as if my gift is sharing my story, my journey yet to hopefully encourage others in that. Yet why no clarity? Why backlash from those around me for speaking? Granted I shouldn't grumble over that because Jesus spoke and was really an outcast for it. Yet He was the savior of the world! Our pastor talked about gifts as being colors of paint and how it all blends in different ways. Sometimes we see ugly colors yet they are all colors AND beautiful to God. So why don't we see it like that? Sometimes I think I was once a beautiful blend of colors when I was born but over the years many "ugly" colors got added due to things in my life and so many placements starting when I was 8, that since all of that, The only colors most everyone had seen with me since I was a very young child were the ugly ones. I'm often told even to this day that most of my battles I face, I brought on myself. Hence why I also struggle with if it's atonement or not when I face trials.....
Seeing a dad cuddle his teen daughter at church today was nice to see but I did feel a twinge of jealousy..... I have struggled my whole life with wondering if I was ever truly loved and cherished. Oh yeah I was told "I love you" by two mainly but I rarely felt like I was truly loved, cherished, missed or whatever for the most part by anyone else. Pretty much everything was conditional. My first placement when I was 8 was the first time I really was told by adults (Beyond my father) that I would never make it, that I would either be in prison, on the streets or in a psych ward for my life. Before I was 18, I had been or still was on a slew of psych meds with diagnoses ranging from ADHD and depression all the way to psychotic and bipolar. Yet I have overcome all of that. I proved everyone wrong! I thank God for His provisions! Okay I do have ADHD but in most cases I deal with that well. I do have some anxiety also.... However if you all survived and saw the stuff I have, you would understand.... Some of the best paint colors in my life was/is music, marching band, my husband and my children. Some of the worst were from people that should have loved and nutured me, and also the darkest time when I was 12..... I remember many of those colors/days like they were yesterday....
So many colors of paint yet do you feel like all you are seen as is ugly? I don't mean appearance, I mean inside. By how the world paints you. I often do and think that that's why I'm such an outcast here....
He went on with the lesson notes. The three that I felt like were perhaps me I talk about next.
Gift of prophecy is proclaiming the truth. Truth of God. That was one of the notes in the sermon. His example cracked me up. Bold, honest and often seen as judgmental. Many think of prophecy as telling the future, Revelation type thing. Not JUST that. Sounds like me.... lol I'm not afraid to call things out and to be brutally honest, even I admit though I'm not always right. And I certainly try to be tactful but sometimes, tact is thrown out out of a 20 story window. lol
Teaching was listed to clearly instruct and communicate truth. "Man, this person needs to learn this. This an opportunity for teaching the truth." Well,if that's the case then all parents of kids with special needs would do that as a start! How often do you have to educate those around you and your kids about life, talk about blessings and hardships.
The last one that touched me was the gift of Mercy. Compassionate to those in distress. So many opportunities of that this journey has brought.... First time my son was in the PICU is one that sticks out....The gift of mercy means you are compassionate toward those who are in distress.
Yet sometimes I wish I had encouragement.....Often I don't, especially in the real world. I can see things online that encourages me but that's impersonal. The world is full of people willing to stab others in the back and full of hate.... Even often in places where you would least expect it. Everyone is so busy, so wrapped up in their life, their world that they forget about those who they even see as family or friends. Often I'm judged, looked down upon and or condemned for the things I say or post. More often, I struggle with just keeping my mouth shut feeling like others don't want to hear me. I admit sometimes I have a potty mouth, I try to keep it tamed. I really do. Yet I have been judged more harshly for that than those I see that sin "worse" than that...... That's not right either.
One of the phrases that the tail end of the James study says is:
This makes me want to touch on something else in this post. If I didn't step on toes already, I will with this part. You've had your disclaimer.
I saw a pic on Facebook that I want you to really look at.
I said with this:
Till we are pro-life for the unborn AND the already born, we are not truly pro-life. Till we get ourselves to the mindset that no child deserves or does not deserve fair treatment, nourishment, love and healthcare, we will never be pro-life. When we see that ALL children have a right to those things and should be given as such, we will never be truly pro-life.
It's not about the rich deserve life and the poor do not. Either all do or do not. I vote that all do. Quit preaching right to life if you are not willing to help those have a quality of life. Don't insist on birth but then wash your hands of those children in need.
Where is your mercy and compassion?
Where is our mercy and compassion for all of those suffering? For all of those in need? For those honestly trying to make everything work and still failing... Are we all so cold anymore that we lost that? We are quicker to judge those around us than we are to stop, pray and maybe learn a little about them. I"m not saying that all of your money should go to those who are NOT doing anything to better themselves. HOWEVER maybe at least learn the stories of those around us, maybe then we can have more mercy and compassion for not just who they are but why they are the way they are.
I first started to share my past with others when I was 11, almost 12. I got called a liar, I was told by my counselor at the time that I was a liar, that I made everything up and that I will never be believed. Soon after, that is when I wanted to kill myself..... I had nobody then..... In my mind I did not... Even soon after when I was in my 4th/5th (Same place twice. First time a few days, second time two weeks) placement, I was alone, nobody listened to me. They would rather drug me up and diagnose me with whatever labels they wanted than to listen to me. Even at my 6th placement, I was not heard..... I was no longer suicidal by the time I got out of no. 6 but I knew I was alone..... I was no longer in any placement by 15 1/2, I had just left my 8th placement. I didn't really begin to heal though till I was 20.
Those in this world who were commanded to love like Christ, loved me the least.
That was my world, overall my life. And I still struggle with it...... That's why stuff like what I'm about to say upsets me. It is NOT what we are commanded to be....
I first started to share my past with others when I was 11, almost 12. I got called a liar, I was told by my counselor at the time that I was a liar, that I made everything up and that I will never be believed. Soon after, that is when I wanted to kill myself..... I had nobody then..... In my mind I did not... Even soon after when I was in my 4th/5th (Same place twice. First time a few days, second time two weeks) placement, I was alone, nobody listened to me. They would rather drug me up and diagnose me with whatever labels they wanted than to listen to me. Even at my 6th placement, I was not heard..... I was no longer suicidal by the time I got out of no. 6 but I knew I was alone..... I was no longer in any placement by 15 1/2, I had just left my 8th placement. I didn't really begin to heal though till I was 20.
Those in this world who were commanded to love like Christ, loved me the least.
That was my world, overall my life. And I still struggle with it...... That's why stuff like what I'm about to say upsets me. It is NOT what we are commanded to be....
This is not who we are called to be..... Do I agree with the lifestyles sometimes? NO! Does that mean they are less than me? NO!! What were we taught? Love like Christ loved.
“Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed, to me:
I lift my lamp beside the golden door.”
― Emma Lazarus
What happened to this? Now I'm not saying that everyone should just have free reign. However banning people, blaming all for the actions of a few, hatred, racism, etc. There isn't excuses for that... We need to keep our country safe indeed, keep the world safe... Yet this is also a fallen world.... And banning people just because they LOOK like terrorists for example is not what Emma had in mind.... Nor did God.
Matthew 25:35-40
For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’
James 1:17
Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.
1 John 3:17
But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?
Romans 12:13
Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
Galatians 6:2
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
Philippians 2:4
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Acts 20:35
In everything I showed you that by working hard in this manner you must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’
Shall I say more?
Eph 2:19-22
Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household,
And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit.
Maybe if you use your paint colors, your spiritual gifts to make this world a better place, than those around you will not appear so "ugly" just because they aren't like you......
If people around you refuse to help themselves, we are commanded to love them anyway. However we are NOT commanded to enable their behavior or to act fools. We are not to tell them when they come to you upset that they are idiots and they asked for whatever. Even if they did, you show them love and compassion without enabling or encouraging the negative behavior. I'm nobody's doormat and I refuse to be however I have no problems listening to what stories or advice people seek. I tell them what I think.... I do not always do that as I should but I try.... God is working on me.
Think about this though, what colors are you painting yourself and the world around you? What colors are you throwing onto others without even knowing them or their story, or simply what their day is like? Before throwing them under the bus, listen to their story, show compassion, look at life from their perspective.
We whine and complain about how the world sees us as Christians, maybe it's time that instead of whining, we show action. We show what Christ really commanded of us. THEN maybe the world will judge us a little less. Besides, we aren't supposed to live as if we love what is in this world anyway, we should live for what comes after.
Maybe if those who said they followed Jesus had loved me the way they should have, I wonder if my darkest point would have happened...... Yet because of that story, I know I have helped others, and maybe, just maybe that's when the healing really started. When I knew my story has shown others that they are not alone in a world that has no qualms about making them feel as if they are.
Now go out there and share your story. Impact a life, encourage and give them hope......
Romans 12:2
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
~ Special Momma ~